Six Elements of Happy Life
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I have been working on my blog for more than three years and I finally figured out the magic formula which makes me happy! And I want to share it with the world, because if it helped me, it might be useful for someone else.
Here is the link to the video for today's article: Six Elements.
I just took a bite of very yummy almond croissant and it felt so good! But I cannot eat my favorite croissants all the time, it won't be good for my health, so I just let myself to touch this guilty pleasure once a week or so. And in this article I will describe what makes me happy all the time, not just when I taste my precious almond croissant. I won't go in too much details for now. You will get more information about each element in my future articles. For now I will just give the list.
Here are my six elements of happy life:
Self-love. My blog and my YouTube channel are called "Be Strong and Love Yourself" for a reason. I believe that love gives us a lot of energy and helps us to fight our fears. Why wait for someone else to get love if you can give it to yourself? By self-love I don't mean to be selfish, I mean that you need to take care of yourself, take responsibility, be committed, think of your health, cultivate forgiveness and gratitude.
Basic knowledge of how brain works. There are so many wonderful free lectures, classes and interviews which can explain the fundamentals of neuroscience, psychology, biology, etc. I was blaming myself for many mistakes that I've made, but when I got better knowledge of the way my brain works, I became more understanding, forgiving and less judgmental towards myself and other people. Whatever decisions you make are coming from the gray matter you have in your head. And it is very important not to store too much junk in it and understand how it works.
Meditation or mindfulness. Meditation means "Become familiar with...". With what? With your own thoughts, emotions, feelings, sensations within your body. Whatever is going on inside of you. With meditation you learn to observe yourself, you become aware of what is going on with you, and you learn how to switch your attention to something useful and meaningful instead of wasting time on ruminations. Focus is extremely important. They say, "Where your attention goes, your energy flows". And mindfulness helps you to direct this attention to the right places.
Self-discipline. This element became extremely important for me personally, when I was going through very difficult period of my life. I kind of think that it could be a part of self-love, but because it was so helpful for me, I decided to highlight it as separate element. There are a lot of benefits of self-discipline, including cultivation of internal rewards and building trust. And the great thing about it is that even if you are not disciplined right now, you can change it and grow this skill.
Knowing your strengths. You can become a true master if you focus on something that you like, something that you are good at. There was a research which has shown that when people focus on their strengths or weaknesses were able to improve their lives during the experiment. But six month later people who started working on their strengths were still doing that and people who have been focused on weaknesses stopped working on them. So when we think about long-term benefit, focusing on your strengths can be much more beneficial. You can try very popular VIA character strengths survey, if you want to discover yours.
Giving back. What is the point of all self-care, learning new things, becoming the best version of yourself, if you don't give back to others? This element is about your relationships with other people and with the world in general. If you build your relationships on the idea of what you can give, rather than take, you cannot lose, because there will be nothing to lose, you already have everything. There are a lot of ways we can help others, you just need to find your own.
So these are my six elements, the more details I will share in my future posts. These elements are reflection of what BESALY (Be Strong And Love Yourself) means. They are the core structure of my teaching. And little by little I will share more information so you can make these elements a part of your life. And I hope they will be able to make you happy the same way as they made me!
Little exercise in the end. You know I like exercises, this way we learn better. Look at my elements and think of which ones you already have and which ones you can add to your life, and think of how you can make it.
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